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Alyson Evans, RVT, CVT, Elite FFCP, CCFP<\/strong>Six months ago, I wrote about my experience with burnout. I thought then that I had reached my lowest low, but I was wrong. Here\u2019s what has been happening since then.<\/p>\n

I have been doing nail trims and anal sac expressions in my neighborhood for the last three years.\u00a0 Recently, one of my neighbors had asked on our community Facebook page if someone in the veterinary field could answer a question. Her dog was limping, and she didn\u2019t know what to do.\u00a0 One of the neighbors offered her some doggy aspirin she had bought at the pet store. I quickly advised against giving unprescribed medications to her pet.<\/p>\n

The conversation turned into a bullying session. One of my neighbors told me I shouldn\u2019t try to act like a veterinarian. I have never felt so disrespected in the 15 years I have been in this career.<\/p>\n

I shut down.<\/p>\n

The next thing I knew, I was in my closet, crying, repeating to myself, \u201cI don\u2019t care, I don\u2019t care anymore. Why should I care about others\u2019 pets if I am going to be treated like crap? I\u2019m done.\u201d<\/p>\n

I may have been improving with burnout, but I had just hit a whole new level of compassion fatigue.<\/p>\n

I had a full weekend\u2019s worth of nail trims to do and was going to make a little more than $200 in five hours. I didn\u2019t care about the extra money anymore and canceled all appointments for the foreseeable future.<\/p>\n

In tears, I explained to my husband why I had given up making extra money on the side. It was clear he wanted to help but didn\u2019t know what to say or do. I knew I needed professional help.<\/p>\n

Now I\u2019m in the process of finding a therapist I can connect with.\u00a0Until then, my family and I have adopted the following tools to help reduce stress:<\/p>\n

–Simple Habit, a meditation app. My son uses it to fall asleep and settle down. He will ask to meditate to go to sleep now.<\/p>\n

–A \u201ccoming home\u201d routine: The spouse who is home first allows the second spouse to \u201cfinish coming home.\u201d This gives them some quiet transition time to put their bags down, change clothes, and relax. When they\u2019re ready to engage with the other spouse to prepare for the evening, they come out of the bedroom or wherever they choose to decompress.<\/p>\n

–Boundaries with kids: I explain to my son that I need time to talk with his dad and ask him to sit quietly and watch a short show or play ABCmouse, a reading app.\u00a0I also set timers in the house called, \u201cTime to get ready for bed,\u201d \u201cTime for bed,\u201d and \u201cQuiet time is over.\u201d<\/p>\n

–Communication: When I start to feel like I\u2019m getting anxious, I communicate how I am feeling and what I need to be able to come back down to earth.<\/p>\n

Most of all, we continue to remind each other to slow down, be present, engage, and take time to listen to one another. My husband and I are working to improve our communication with our 3-year-old son so we can help him become an emotionally intelligent person, something his dad and I still work on ourselves.<\/p>\n

We make time to have difficult conversations, and when we get into arguments, we try to make it a conversation, being mindful of raised voices, body language, and facial expressions. When necessary, we call each other out in a respectful way, in the moment, to help the other become aware of what they are doing.<\/p>\n

The Fear Free way of thinking has helped me in so many aspects of my life. I use the techniques with my own son when he has doctor appointments as well as in everyday life. I communicate with him, making sure he knows what is coming up next, where we are going, what the doctor will do next. He is better behaved and calmer when things are explained to him, in most settings. I think that most children would respond to situations in a calmer manner when a Fear Free or Considerate Approach is taken.<\/p>\n

In a work setting, my current team is emotionally intelligent, and all know the battle that I am fighting, which helps. Openly discussing things with your team can not only help you to become stronger but also to be seen with more respect and empathy than if you suffer in silence to spare everyone else\u2019s feelings. Maybe someone on your team is suffering as well and doesn\u2019t have the courage to speak up. Sharing your battles may give them strength to seek help for theirs. I wish more practice managers and owners would spend a day, at least, in a Fear Free certified hospital.<\/p>\n

The most important message I want to send is that the battle of burnout is ongoing, and it\u2019s not one you can win on your own. It doesn\u2019t fix itself overnight or with a couple of therapy sessions.<\/p>\n

Here is a quote I read frequently from Rachel Ashwell\u2019s book \u201cPainted Stories\u201d:<\/p>\n

\u201cThere is a time for taking action and creating work, and there is also a time for rest and seeking new ideas. Learning when you need space will help you to build a more sustainable creative practice.\u201d<\/p>\n

Check out our Fear Free on the House<\/a> page for resources on wellness, quick tips, and more!<\/p>\n

This article was reviewed\/edited by board-certified veterinary behaviorist Dr. Kenneth Martin and\/or veterinary technician specialist in behavior Debbie Martin, LVT.<\/em><\/p>\n

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